Karma; my son is turning into me.

IMG_6127From the minute Jack was born, it was pretty obvious that he was mine. The poor kid. He looks exactly like me. We came out of the womb looking exactly the same, and from here on out he’s getting more and more like me.

The problem? He also has my personality. Which makes him stubborn. And always right. At the moment he’s approaching 4, so we’re needing to discipline him from time to time. 99% of the time he is a great child. 99% of the time he is a polite and loving child, and he and his sister have a beautiful relationship going on. We understand how lucky we are.

It’s the 1% of time when he decides he’s the boss that we seriously clash. Inevitably, I get to the end of an argument with him and realise that I can’t be mad at him, because he’s doing exactly the same thing I would have done. Deep down I’m trying not to laugh as the reality sets in. A good 20 more years of this. 20 more years of facing off against a nemesis from my own DNA. Like Darth Vader staring down Luke, waiting to see who blinks.

17264717_10155034869710275_912693182271065072_nAngie of course, beautifully natured and rarely mad (only at me), can’t handle any conflict, so Jack is immediately forgiven for all wrong doing. ‘He’s just too damn cute’ she says, giving up on her anger and smothering him with cuddles. Side note – Angie maintains that Jack has her toes – she’s really clutching at straws here. I maintain they all have her bum chin (see right), but I digress.

Discipline is a touchy subject. It’s something that can cause arguments between parents, between couples. I was smacked as a child and I’m sure I deserved it. I still turned out fine. Angie (the yin to my yang) was of course an Angel in her youth and never in trouble. Despite the differences, we both agree and are against smacking our children. We never have. I’m thinking some big kid will put him in his place in the school yard at some point and he’ll learn to bite his tongue.

So as he grows up, I’m sure I’ll need to continually learn. He’ll continue to want his independence, he’ll continue to want to grow into his own mould. Realistically I need to learn to argue with myself. Because that’s who I’m fighting against. I can feel my parents laughing somewhere off in the distance whilst Jack and I disagree on whether he should apologise to his sister or not.

Andrew

Holidays are a great excuse to indulge, but not blow out.

I love to travel. I love to stay fit and healthy. And for so many, it’s essentially a dichotomy. You can have one, but not the other. For me, no two things go hand in hand more than exercise and travel, except maybe football and nachos.

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I’ve spent a lot of the past 15 years travelling. From a fresh faced teenager straight out of school, to a professional travelling with teams, to now a global speaker and business owner. Along the way, the one constant was always that exercise was the greatest way to meet locals.

With the proliferation of healthy lifestyle all over the world, you can’t walk far without finding a gym these days. Most hotels will have basic (and free) gyms, but there will easily be something bigger down the road. A lot will give you a free trial. Personally I love CrossFit, and a freebie for a drop in, or trading a t-shirt from my home box (gym) for a free session is common practice.

Once you’re there, you can meet so many locals, find out the must see places, learn of the best restaurants, the secret gems that only locals know about. Local knowledge is the difference between seeing a place and experiencing a place. All it takes is a simple hello to the person next to you. Chances are your accent will immediately spark a conversation.

With a morning session at the gym / box complete, the blood is pumping, your energy is up and jet lag can be defeated swiftly. Even better, with a good strong session in the morning, you’ve given yourself some extra wiggle room to enjoy the indulgences and bigger meals that come with travel. What good is travelling if you’re not going to experience the food. With a sharp session each morning you can enjoy the food, and maintain without the gain.

Maps and apps in the modern world can bring any gym to your attention. Set your body up Day 1 of a trip by getting up early and getting into some weights. Meet the locals, find out some secrets and justify that glass of wine and desert come dinner time.

 

 

Andrew Logan